"You're always picking on me."
Maybe you've heard this before.
I have tried, on many occasions, to explain to some of my students that their actions have consequences.
"I am not picking on you. Your consequences are in direct correlation to your actions." Well, I don't use those words exactly, but you understand what I am trying to get them to understand.
It doesn't help when parents stand behind this thinking, and add their voice to the idea that my day is made when I get to "pick on" a child.
Well, after Student-led conferences I felt that maybe the consequences in our room weren't clear. Maybe that was the problem. They understood there would be consequences, but just felt that they were not dealt out fairly. We do have a brief list of Expectations hanging on our wall, however, that doesn't seem to be enough.
So during Morning Meeting, we came up with a Rules and Consequences form, which I have since changed to Actions & Consequences. We sat as a group and worked on the form. I added two actions, but they came up with the rest. ALL the consequences are theirs. ALL.
We did not list positive actions because no one has ever accused me of "picking on" them for positive things. They know the consequences of positive actions, they experience it every day.
I printed the document. You will notice there is a place for the child to sign AND their parent. They are to bring the document back and keep it in their desk, notebook, somewhere where they can access it if needed.
I have a great group of kids, but, this is a lesson I need them to take with them as they follow their path.
Your actions have consequences.
They can be positive or negative, but our actions, young and old alike, have consequences.
Credits: I found the quote above on FB. Applebaum Training Institute